Bad Parenting

Lately, Adam is being difficult with his homework that I'm forced to threat him rather than encourage. I have ran out of positive enforcement ideas to stimulate this little guy and beginning to think that some teachings by some motivational personality are only idealistic, and not practical enough to be applied to kids like mine.

May be I'm not trying hard enough, may be I'm just an impatient mom whose had enough at work and merely dumping the pressure on the boy. On Tuesday, I have come to the point of forcing him to finish his homework through his own tears. The punishment for not finishing is that I would be ignoring him for the rest of his life, that I would never talk to him again ever. He was weeping all along while finishing the assignment. He had to make sure that Mama will still care for him, and frantically rushed through his work, with tears flowing down his chubby little cheeks.

Deep inside I regretted for bruising his ego and reaping off his sense of belonging. Now this damage is bad, really bad. I shared my worry with Papa, but he said I'm merely trying to meet deadlines. Papa doesn't seem to be worried at all.

I wonder if this would really scar his love for me? I'm trying to show that family love is unconditional, yet by doing this, I am actually going against my own principle, wrecking the entire foundation of love and trust in my own flesh and blood. Gosh, parenting is really a difficult responsibility!

Six-Year-Old Girl

For her sixth birthday, Aina wanted to share it with her friends in kindy. She asked me to prepare party-packs and a cake to bring to class. I'm already dried for ideas as all the other mommies have already used up my ideas like giving out accessories like hair pins, pencil boxes and what nots.

I finally decided that books make better party-packs for the children, though boring but they will be useful. So I got them prophet-themed workbooks - they're like story books with activities like coloring, find hidden items etc. Just not to make them boring packs, Aina asked me to put color pencils, raisins and jellies - of course, my girl cannot be rated boring!

By the way, if you are looking for children books with Islam oriented contents, do drop by my friend's shop Mindaku Bookstore in Seksyen 13 Shah Alam, opposite the primary school.

Then comes the cake part. It's a challenge trying to bring a big cake and split them to 22 kids in 15 minutes break-time. What better solution than having cup-cakes, and they were pretty too. And these are fresh from the oven, from a college-friend Saf who decided to quit her job and concentrate on baking.


After the little party in school, I was already feeling exhausted from the previous week's hectic schedule. In fact, I was feeling under the weather already, and decided to sleep the whole afternoon.

Of course, Aina's birthday won't be complete without the family dinner. This time, we decided to have an Italian dinner at the Little Italian Kitchen in Shah Alam Mall. And courtesy of the owner who recognized us as regular patrons, Aina got this little soufle with ice-cream. So we saved on buying a while cake.

But then later that night, what was consumed during the dinner was thrown out when my tummy just couldn't stand the big ball of gas that's been in there since noon, afterwhich, I slept through the night like eternity.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY AINA!

Another year gone in a breeze. I just hope I wouldn't miss my kids growing up because life is like a dash..

Hectic School Holidays

What happened for the past 3 weeks?

Mak came back from Peru just for Atam's wedding. Too bad she came back alone, leaving Uncle Jack behind, missing all the bustling fun preparing the wedding.

Atam got married on May 28-27, we felt a bit short-handed though, that we didn't even have the opportunity to pose with the pengantins. I had to cancel my long leave because work is unbelievably demanding.

Aina caught sore-eyes, thanks to Ariff. She was also down with fever that we were not sure if we coud make it for the Perlis reception on June 1. Adam left early with Achoo & Acik just in case Mama & Papa decided not to go. Well, we made it though despite the jam and sleepiness driving up north on Friday night.

June 1- thanks to the nice food Pak Tam's family prepared, we had a good time though. By this time, Adam also caught sore-eyes. After the reception, we went up to Padang Besar, and we just didn't know what to get there. I finally decided to buy a small wok. Other than that, a few kaftans for me & maid. On Sunday, we held lunch for the family at Opah's house.

Coming back from Alor Setar was another frenzy - the traffic was very slow all the way from Taiping right to Rawang. What used to be a five hour journey became a 9 hour slow moving ride. I was worried all the way because I have a negotiation session at 9am in the morning, and I wasn't prepared for it at all. After everybody had settled down at home, I worked from 2:30-4:30am.

Sigh!

Selamat Pengantin Baru Mak Tam & Pak Tam

Wishing Mak Tam and Pak Tam all the best for their new life together

May you live happily ever after

Hope Mak Tam will miss us ever

At that new place you endeavour

Is unlike Shah Alam we favour

You will miss all the laughter

When the brood are all together

But then we hope our new "brother"

Will take care of you forever...

Life has been very hectic for the past three weeks that I haven't had time to update this blog. All my planned leave are canceled until I submit a major proposal on June 19th. Until then, my blogging time will be limited.